Babies and changes in poly
When someone in a happy poly tangle has a new baby, I think we can all agree that it affects the relationships involved. If you have input on one or more of the thoughts below, please share!
If you've had a baby while ID'ing as poly...
Did you take a break from relationships that weren't with your co-parent? If so, for how long? Do you feel like that was the best choice, looking back?
If not, how, if at all, did your relationships with partners other than your co-parent change? Did you slow down, or did it spur you to get closer faster? If yes to either, why? Did your other partners also help parent, or at least take an active role with the baby? How did that affect your relationship(s) with them?
Did your co-parent's outlook on poly change, and, if so, how did that impact your life?
For people who've been partnered to folks who've had a baby with another partner...
Did you stay together? How did it change your relationship if at all? Did it change your views about parenting? Did you feel you had a special relationship to the child? If so, were there difficulties associated with loving a child not your own? What were the rewards? Would you do it again? If you and that partner broke up, did you maintain a relationship with the child?
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.