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Old 10-26-2011, 08:17 PM
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Originally Posted by bulrush View Post
I've been on Okcupid since 2006, only found one person that listed polyamory in their profile.
A lot of us don't. Since there are so many misconceptions about poly, where people think it's like swinging or all about having lots of random sex, it's often more fruitful to hint at it in the profile but to answer all the poly questions in ways that would make it obvious to any poly person what the deal is. They just have to do a little digging. Many people open to or looking for poly relationships don't ID as poly in life or on OKC. So this is a way to appeal to a wider range of potential candidates, including those who are okay with non-monogamy but never even heard of poly.
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
solopoly.net/2014/10/31/why-im-not-a-secondary-partner-the-short-version/

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