Long story short there are a lot of egos and crap in the swinging lifestyle and not alot of caring so we stopped swinging.
Oh, that's too bad. Me and my gf are looking for a person or couple to be in a caring friendship with more. I think you are looking for the same thing. I feel for you.
I've been on Okcupid since 2006, only found one person that listed polyamory in their profile.
I don't want things to be shallow and just sexual, I want that relationship, that connection too. So to say I want a FWB, I think, misses the point. I want more than FWB.