Well maybe she doesn't like the idea of feelings yet she enjoys physical contact? I realized for some time that wanting sex and wanting a connection are two different things. I don't like the idea of someone just wanting me around for sex but everyone is different. I also don't want to be clingy in my relationships so, maybe that's a different distinction as well.
I recently told a new interest that I talk too much and to shut me up by kissing me. I said to him, "we don't need to know much about each other do we?" but to my surprise and delight he said I am interested in what you have to say. Though the idea of someone stifling my need to talk by kissing is really interesting to me.

I think I am just sick of myself, I just want him to adore me no questions asked and that is asking alot. LOL