She sounds like what they call a "cowgirl"... a woman who enters a poly relationship with the intent of "roping" their new partner away into mono-land.
Her derision towards you for something you can't control is so unsettling and NOT ok... it's pretty messed up that K doesn't seem to see that.
She's exactly wrong, in that a partnership means you stick with each other even when the going gets rough, so the fact that you and K are still together despite your condition means you DO have a partnership! Would she abandon him or no longer consider him a partner if he got sick??? Ugh.
It's one thing to want to believe that everyone has good inside them, but that doesn't mean everyone is ready to be a good partner. I think K would do well for all involved to tell her to shape up or ship out... or maybe just to ship out.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.
Last edited by AnnabelMore; 10-23-2011 at 12:38 AM.