boy I have made one hell of a mess. My OSO is upset. My wife says she has nothing for me without him (which is junk I know, she is just upset). I feel horrible.
One thing is I reached out to my wife's OSO because me and him never really talked but more than 5 minutes. He reached out first last weekend. Perhaps after talking to him and building some kind of friendship it will go along way to making me feel better.