Originally Posted by FireChild
I don't really know anyone but from the wife's viewpoint it could be a case of leaving the door for all the partners to be sexually involved open. That can't happen when one of the partners feels like a sister. Then again it could just be trivial jealousy.
Personally, I would be really creeped out if a metamour wouldn't let a relationship continue unless there was the possibility that I might some day want to fuck them too, unless it was specifically understood up front that they were unicorn hunting. And even if that was the expectation, the lack of a sexual angle for her would still be a pretty callous thing to break two people's hearts over.
Plus, the OP's wife got involved with another man and we have no indication that he's bi, so that motivation would be really hypocritical.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.
Last edited by AnnabelMore; 10-20-2011 at 11:35 PM.