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Old 10-20-2011, 07:07 PM
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Originally Posted by onoma View Post
I think I am interested in an open relationship and it might help us out as well.
Having an open relationship does not fix problems in an existing relationship. The relationship MUST be solidly grounded, happy, and healthy BEFORE opening it up. Otherwise, you'd just be heading toward disaster. That fact cannot be stressed enough. It does sound like you two are not compatible at present, and I don't think adding other people while hanging onto something that isn't working would help. Look at and resolve what's wrong now without looking elsewhere. You need to give this relationship time to be working really well before even remotely considering poly.
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