Your last point in the above list, that is pretty much what I'm dealing with. While my wife had no problems locating a boyfriend and a girlfriend I am. I've been using (6 months) several online and local resouces to find a female partner and I've come up with nothing. I've gone on a few dates via OkCupid with people who are 95% matched but when we've met it is clear they are not okay with "dating" a married man whether or not my spouse is okay with it. So they view it just as meeting people. Personally I've become extremely frustrated by this and find that the process of looking for a quality partner takes too much time away from my other responsibilites with no payoff. Sounds like you've been experiencing similar things. Thoughts? Suggestions from the community?