I posted this a while back on a different blog, my thoughts on why het couples seeking a single, bi woman (aka a "unicorn") often get a bad rap. Perhaps it will be useful to you in your journey:
See also this thread, "advice for couple seeking third": http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3693
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.
Last edited by AnnabelMore; 10-20-2011 at 05:35 AM.