Well yeah, AT, I know the difference between willing to put up with it, and eagerly wanting it!
You missed my point. Hmmm... Not too be too graphic, but I guess a low libido lesbian could just lie back and let her partner hump her leg or something, even if she doesn't want her erogenous zones touched... She could hold the horny partner while she masturbates, and maybe bring herself to twiddle a nipple or something...
I'm sure a sex therapist would have some ideas, but Root's wife won't even go to one.
I'm glad her hot flashes are more under control and she is sleeping better now. That's some progress at least. Be nice if more rest and less annoying hot flashes led to her feeling more sexy eventually.