Originally Posted by Magdlyn
I mean, with a het couple, the woman who has little to no sex drive can just lube up and lie back and let him put the Jolly Roger in.
Um...no. There's always this little bit in play: "...'Willing to' is so vastly different from 'wants to' that it still makes me cry."
That situation is a tragedy in most any sort of relationship.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.