So how old are the kids (his)? His kids are 14 and 16 (both girls)
What does he want out of the relationship? He wants a longterm relationship and a family. At least this is what we have been told.
What do you need to feel secure about the relationship? One date a week? Every other week? Our biggest thing is we want to see him more often, at least every other week. Between those dates more texting. We have also asked to get to know his daughters better, which he started to make an effort a few months ago but since then begin to slip.
It is hard because my wife and I have always been open in showing affection, so when he with holds it creates that seperation feeling.