Originally Posted by OldGuy
We went to a poly convention....
What are your thoughts?
The vast majority of polyfolk won't be found at conventions. Anything that you find prevalent among convention attendees can *not* be said to be typical of polyfolk. Indeed, the same things that put you off are the very things that keep some of us uninvolved in any poly organization of any sort (other than showing up here).
As there is no "poly lifestyle" to worry about, there's no benefit to getting involved with any group that exhibits such negative attitudes. Find the folk with whom you enjoy being associated and politely decline invitations from the rest seems to be the best approach.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.