I'm looking for some compassion.
My response blindsided me but it's so gut deep and visceral, I don't see it changing any time soon. I've been with her for 18 months and counting, at month 17 she, with my support and encouragement added her new interest. My response to the 'double booking' was a huge shock
for both of us
As was the discovery that we are so polarized in our expectations in this regard.
Right now all I see is the disconnect, and no way to fix things. I'm asking for help and also if other people have this issue of going from one partner to another being distasteful when it's 'too close' and if so, how they've handled the discovery or did they just "know ahead of time?" What does that look like, do you ask for a sleep night or what ever?