In all this time, have you once said to the guy "Hey, can I get your number?" or to the girl "Hey, would it bother you if I asked [husband's name] for his number?"
If not, why not?
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.