So you're a guy, you had 2 gfs, J and X, dumped X, got married to J, and moved to Toronto with her. I'm not confused yet.
Yes I am a guy. I did not have 2 girlfriends all 3 of us J, X and myself lived together, as one unit under the same roof.
Now I am confused. She is off sex but she is replying to ads for sex, which are seeking a sexual partner for you? She doesn't want sex, so why is she replying to the ads? Why isn't that your job?
I do reply but she puts her inputs as she is a part of my life I cant lie and say I am single when I am married. ( Well I won"t anyway or should I)
But I thought she was "off sex?"
She is not interested in sex
A sex partner for you who may become a friend for her? She doesn't want sex, you say. Do you mean she just doesn't want sex with you
? Or she would have sex with you if another partner was also in the bed? How do you feel about that?
I feel fine with her having sex of any kind but she does not want sex with anyone period!
A new lover for you is under no obligation to become friends or lovers with J.
I never said I wanted a new lover to be J's friend
Well yeah. You're the one who wants sex and romance with others. J can seek friends outside of the dating community. On her own. Not with singles and couples who want sex/romance.
She has friends outside of the dating/sex scene
How could you sexually "share" her if J doesn't want sex?
I said I had no problem sharing her whether she wants to or not is up to her. As it stands she doesn't.
My advice, for as far as I understand it now, is to stop thinking as "we" and start acting as individuals. You want sex with others... go get it. J wants some new non-sexual friends, go get 'em, J.
I am getting to this point but find it hard meeting people due to the fact that when I mention I am married I get the rejections and all the other crap for being married and labeled as a cheater
J can join ok cupid and just write in her profile she is seeking friends. Or she can meet them in real life through hobbies, work, volunteering, etc.