Yes Redpepper, and I love it that beauty and elegance have entered this thread.
Well Chicks, here's a midstream update. I've floated the idea of my leaving town when the metamour visits and it caused quite a stir for those two - rejection, guilt, anger, accusations, mistrust, doubt - but is starting to settle now. Mara and I are good together again and clearer about our commitment and what we want for our lives and loves together. Admitting my needs has made me less frantic about getting my fair share of the outside love. And surprise, surprise, we've met a young gay poly woman in our little town who we both adore and who's got the hots for Mara. Those winds of heaven are dancing with NRE again...