Thanks for the book suggestions RP.LR couldnt find them at the book store near where we live so she is going to order them online.
The triggering communication talk makes sense and as you stated the opening lines to that communication are the most important.( so as to not further an argument) Ill give it a try and let you know how it works. Thanks RP.
" NO WORDDIES BE HAPPY"- My 2 year old baby girl