So you are owned by this woman and are not willing to change it... That's what it sounds like. Wow. Well, good luck. I don't know what else to tell you that others haven't.
For the record? I would of said this, "If you loved me, you would love all of me, and honor the terms set out in the beginning of this relationship, that we were not going to be exclusive partners, that our relationship would by necessity be of a polyamorous nature, etc..." and maybe she would of left. This is exactly where you have let this woman manipulate you... Because you are afraid.
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