It's funny how you've mentioned twice that you'd like Jean to date Paul, when you're the one that really wants to!
You'd feel awful if they started shagging and you weren't shagging him, wouldn't you?
Have you both openly fantasized to each other about having sex with him?
Leave out the labels, who is a lesbian, who is straight. You both like gay sex (even if you're apparently now in the throes of Lesbian Bed Death), you personally like het sex, and J's got the hots for Danny.
TALK ABOUT IT.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
me: Mags, 59, living with:
miss pixi, 37