Originally Posted by CamInGA
I think I may just say to her that it is OK with me if she wants to date Danny, and see how she reacts. At the very least, it will open up the discussion.
That seems a little disingenuous if it's really you who wants to date him. Do you not think she'll pick up on that?
You might do better just saying you've been doing some reading and thinking about polyamory, and that Danny sprung to mind since you both have a bond with him, and aren't the possibilities interesting?
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.