Originally Posted by nycindie
I wonder if you would rather have had VC come home from that weekend without any sexual experiences or romantic feelings toward anyone at all. She would still have been this shy, insecure woman you get to "nurture" into becoming enlightened how you see fit, somehow. I think it would behoove you to explore at a deeper level how you really feel about opening up the relationship both sexually and emotionally. It sounds like that's an idea that appeals to you but the reality does not.
Cindie, you're beating a dead horse on this. Your take on our relationship is so far off base, neither of us responds to it, but still you persist. Sorry, but repeating these ideas over and over and over is really not helping anyone.