Originally Posted by nycindie
Ahh, MZ has hit on some very good points here. I think I also sensed some condescension toward Veganchick that came across in your writing and it intimidated me so much that I wrote a very brief response. Of course, it could have all been fueled by anger and hurt, but maybe that's an underlying energy you have that she is scared of. I think MZ's points need to be seriously mulled over by you, Po.
There is definitely some condescension there! The lies made all of this feel like little more than cheating, not poly. Worse even than cheating really.
It is fueled by the anger and hurt, in a big way. But I'm here to grow and so I'll take your words in stride. I'll look deeper. May be that a much more subtle version of that dynamic is there on a regular basis? There is a lot of work to be done at this point, may as well throw everything out there and deal with it all. If there is any chance of rebuilding, may as well make sure the foundation is solid.