Even though I like my kink, I have more vanilla sex then kinky sex. Not every session in bed, for me anyways, needs to be full of BDSM. Sometimes all I want/need is a good old fashioned roll the hay.
Also, I would never push kinky sex on someone who didn't want it. It just might not be there thing. Respect for each others wishes is something I take seriously, especially in the bedroom.
Trust is an important thing. You can't rush it, and the best things in life are worth the wait.