Why does it have to be a dichotomy of kinky or non-kinky, black and white? You could always say to your new lover "I'm just a tiny little bit kinky, nothing remotely serious or hard." But some people would definitely consider a slap to the face in bed kinky! So admitting to a mild shade of gray would actually be more accurate. Alternately, you could say "I'm vanilla with just a sprinkling of cinnamon... and then only in the bedroom.
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.