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Old 10-04-2011, 01:11 AM
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Originally Posted by Lucinda View Post
Oh, absolutely. I don't doubt that people can be switches. What I was responding to is the idea that if or when people take a break from power exchange, they get to be their real selves. For many people, being in a power exchange relationship is a part of their real selves, even if they're on different sides of the slash in different relaitonships.
Out or curiosity I brought the "can you call 24/7 D/s a game" thing to Eddie, and he said the word didn't offend him but that he found it inaccurate for his relationship, basically because of the point Lucinda makes above, that while he and Liam may roleplay or play other games from time to time, most of the time they're being themselves. They just experience their relationship within a power structure that's different from the egalitarian model. It's not a matter of pretending or playing, it's "I own you and we're in love" instead of the usual marriage thing which basically says "we own each other and we're in love" (I know the word "own" is anathema to most polys, but that's essentially how most mutually monogamous and closed couples operate, as I see it, and keep in mind that I don't see that as a negative thing at all).
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The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.

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