It is normal for so many people.
I find what works for me - and this means it may not work for you - is to make sure I schedule time in for any current relationships I have going.
So, I may be pursuing newbie - but I schedule in Wednesday night, from 9pm until I have to go to work, for Shannon. And Thursday arvo (from the time I finish work, until the time his wife arrives home) for Simon. These times involve no contact with anyone else, just energy going in to the one person.
These sorts of schedules do not work for everyone (although I know Simon uses it to sort his week-to-week dealings!), but this is what works for me.
Shannon just comes home when hungry, and hey, that's what works for Shannon!