Good call on the career coach. Hating your job causes shitloads of strain, and that could be more the problem than you even imagine.
Also, it seems like things aren't quite clicking in the bedroom for you guys lately. I have some concrete piece of advice. I am pregnant and, somewhere in the second trimester, things stopped working for me suddenly, and I totally am getting some perspective into the viewpoint of an inorgasmic woman.
Try these two things immediately:
2) Take orgasm off the table for both of you. Play in the bedroom for, say, half an hour or whatever seems reasonable. Don't worry about having orgasms.