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Old 09-30-2011, 04:55 PM
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Originally Posted by NeonKaos View Post
This is one reason why "safe words" are used. It doesn't just mean "ouch! You spanked me too hard!" It also means "we need to step out of our roles for a bit and communicate as equals".
Yeah, I totally get that part. I just don't understand the appeal in NOT being an equal in a relationship in the first place. That's what boggles me. That as a submissive you can't stand up for yourself and say you won't take bullshit anymore unless you call a time-out and negotiate that you may now speak. It just goes against everything I feel about treating another human being with honor and respect to put them in that subservient position, beyond a sexy bedroom game. I know it's real and the way people choose to live, and I've thought about it a lot, but I have a very hard time understanding the benefits.
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