I'm working on a very different set of unhealthy patterns, but I've recently picked up a technique that's working for me. When I'm tempted to slip into the behaviors I'm trying to break, I imagine Dr. Cox from the TV show Scrubs ranting at me derisively the way he does to JD when JD's done or is about to do something dumb. I love the Dr. Cox character and he's SO good at being an asshole, that like JD in the first few seasons I just wanna scramble to please him.
Your mileage may vary on that one...
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.