I'm working on a very different set of unhealthy patterns, but I've recently picked up a technique that's working for me. When I'm tempted to slip into the behaviors I'm trying to break, I imagine Dr. Cox from the TV show Scrubs ranting at me derisively the way he does to JD when JD's done or is about to do something dumb. I love the Dr. Cox character and he's SO good at being an asshole, that like JD in the first few seasons I just wanna scramble to please him.
Your mileage may vary on that one...
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.