Hmm. All I've read is the one post you just linked, but maybe nobody felt the need to tell her she was wrong because she clearly already knew she was wrong? She said herself that she'd become someone she hated.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.