Slowing down is one thing, maybe saying to the OSO, honey, I'm going to be spending more time and energy on my marriage for a while, so you might be seeing less of me, do you think we can work that out? But what an emotionally harsh thing it would be to do, to drop a partner completely for something that has nothing to with your relationship with them. And how exactly would it help? Good on you for hesitating at that idea.
Me, 30ish bi female, been doing solo poly for roughly 5 years. Gia, Clay, and Pike, my partners. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler.