There is no blanket response for all situations. Perhaps members who were familiar with other aspects of the relationships adjusted their responses accordingly.
Some people might come here and post about an abusive situation and the message gets missed, with no responses whatsoever, and the member never comes back; other messages wind up getting a big response just because there's a lot of activity on the board that day and people see a "New Post" and read it. Many, many members respond to sensitive issues via Private Messaging, and you will never see the content on the board. And some members know each other in real life.
We're just a bunch of anonymous people on an internet forum, so don't take what happens here as any indication of society at large or the poly community in general, especially regarding abuse.
Independent solo polyamorist seeking lover-friends willing to invest in friendship, companionship, and love, but without a need for partnership.
Never confuse commitment with exclusivity, love with ownership, nor sex with intimacy!
For me, it is far better to grasp the Universe as it really is than to persist in delusion, however satisfying and reassuring.
~ Carl Sagan
Last edited by nycindie; 09-28-2011 at 07:41 PM.