Thanks for the posts. They were mostly helpful. I recognize that is it hard to answer because of the vagueness of what I said. Sorry about that, but because of the topic and where I was at at the time I felt I needed to be.
NYCindie, you were the closest to helping me out, I appreciate it.
It's a matter of someone's behaviour being seen as unethical by a group of people who want to do something about the lesson learned in a general way and have asked me to be involved. I have given them my answer and explained where I am at with it all. I would prefer to incorporate what I personally have learned and trust that others do the same, including those directly involved. Its not my business.
now to go about the long process of what I have learned and figuring out how to use it.
Thanks... ethics are a funny thing to deal with and yes, subjective...