A perfect man and a not so perfect woman
Ok. the title is an attention getter.
I'll start with the reason for this email. I'm wondering if a third addition to our family (of 2) will be a good thing. We have some issues, as you will see below, but jealousy is not one of them.
A few facts, I'm str8, my partner is a bif. I have a high sex drive (my preference is 3-4x/week) and she happy with sex every other week. She's going through 'the change' and she's got some pain issue and sensitivity. She's going to the doctor to see if it can be remedied. She still loves to have sex with women, which I"m happy with.
She spends a lot of time on Reddit giving sex advice. Unfortunately, I think she needs to write herself an email asking herself for help. She can't explain what turns her on. She loves my touch, but she says it relaxes her, it does not excite her. She's doesn't really enjoy oral from me. I've never had this kind of an issue. If she's not into having sex, she's also not really into a handjob. She's also usually is very inactive during our play. She prefers to sit back and have me do all the work.
We always talk about finding a third woman. I'd love it and so would she. She feels like it would take off the pressure to have sex more often then she wants. But my concern is if we bring in another woman she will start to feel left out or inadequate...she does have that tendency now as she was bullied as a child.
When we started dating the sex was the hottest I've ever had. I never expected it to stay that way, I understand how the newness thing works, but I also did not expect it to get to the point where I've become gun-shy. I'm hesitant to go from the romantic massage and kissing to the next level. She's actually said, "I think you feel like you've been tricked. Hot sex at the start, we move in together and now look where we are".