For starters, try replacing the word "equal" with "fair" or the phrase "equal opportunity to have their needs met in the relationship" and then go through those things again with the new phrase. Equal doesn't have to mean "same".
If you don't want kids, but Anne does want kids, what's the issue? If they like to kiss at a red light and you like to hold hands, what is the conflict? Is equality about keeping score or about making sure everyone has the same level of security with where they are in the relationship?