Responsible to who?
Originally Posted by redpepper
If poly is "responsible or ethical non-mongamy," as quite often it is described as, what does that mean? Responsible to who? What is "ethical?"
Responsible toward all parties involved, directly and indirectly--including one's self.
What is "ethical?"
To live ethically is to endeavor to live and behave in such a way as to (a) harm less* (cause less harm) and (b) create beauty, goodness and wellness.
*Anyone can harm less. But no one can be harmless -- not 100%. Most human activities (especially in an industrial capitalist civilization) is harm full. We do what we can. Our burden is great.