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Old 09-25-2011, 07:04 AM
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Thanks for your thoughts.

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Why not just enjoy it and see what happens? It sounds like you are thinking too much into the future and not living in the moment.
I suppose because being the other side of the country, nothing will happen unless I make an effort to make it happen, and major planning has to be involved for me to even see either of these people again. I don't know what to do, so thinking about where my choices lead seems a natural way to try and make the decision (if you have a better way to decide what to do, please share!).

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You might want to stop thinking of every sexual encounter or possible relationship development as a D/s thing though. There is no reason why any one has to play those roles all the time. Sure D/s is fine and dandy, but it isn't everything in life unless you have an arrangement; which it sounds like you don't. Just a thought anyway.
While I appreciate some people can take or leave D/s (or play a role for a while), for me its a hardwired sexual identity - sex is simply not at all enjoyable for me without a strong D/s element, and its not something I would willingly choose to live without. My relationship with both of these people is in that context.

Its not really relevant to the relationship issue, other than to say that I have a strong sexual need that Alan is compatible with and Bridget is not, which adds a layer of complication to my thinking about either of them.
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