Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG
I think we are totally mis-communicating, Ceoli.
My point is - relationships are not only based on "how much love" there is. That love could be equal among limitless people. Once you bring in external commitments, obligations, and responsibilities, relationships will naturally become prioritized based on the levels of integration.
Some relationships will be "more important" in the big picture because they are more involved on other levels.
I see different levels and types of commitments as not being more or less important than each other. I see them as just that....different. And yes, when breaking things down, of course the person you're making the house payments with is going to be the person with whom finances are part of your relationship. But that does not mean that those finances have to make that relationship a priority over a relationship that may not have that particular entanglement. For some it may be the case, but it doesn't have to be the case for everyone.