Originally Posted by Mark1npt
I have tried to explain to her that the problem is with me and how I'm wired, not her.
I think the problem isn't with you, but with the culture which has told us all our lives that to really love someone that love has to be exclusive. This results in people thinking "Aren't I good enough four you?"... "Aren't I enough for you?"
All you have to do is honestly say "You're much better than good enough for me!, but I don't believe my ability and desire to love others is a comment about you, suggesting your inadequacy. It's a comment on my ability and need to love other/s, also."