I think part of the reason triads/unicorn relationships don't work out is because there is no room to move, to morph into what works. Generally there is an imbalance of time, depth of connection, interests, etc and I find that people seeking triads and unicorns are na´ve in thinking that there will be a complete balance. Generally this ends in one person suffering from that delusion and getting hurt because they had that fantasy. If it's a to work, I think all expectations and assumptions need to be dropped. That and working on your self for your self, not for "the couple" or anyone else, but because it comes down to the health and awareness of those involved.
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