Originally Posted by Tinyblu
In my past relationships (all bad), the NOT knowing and the sneaking around is what ended up hurting me the most.
In this case a DADT policy may not be the best option. I'm not saying that he should share all the "details" but keeping you informed may be helpful to avoid past triggers.
Based on his response to your "freak out/meltdown" I think you may have a pretty decent guy here.