I'm just doing what people usually do at some point, which is point out that we only have one side of the story and therefore incomplete information with which to draw conclusions. Time and time again i have seen people do a 180 degree turn on their free advice when the other part(ies) show up and see what their partner wrote about them. Has Sundance really chosen not to post here or does he simply not know he's being talked about? Maybe he should come here and read all the stuff being said about him, then i bet he'd feel like posting. I know i would.
Also, i have been in your position too, lecturing other members who complain about people judging without the other side of the story. So nothing you just said is new to me; you could have copied it from one of my earlier posts.