Originally Posted by SNeacail
When saying what you mean, shows little to no compassion for the other person, more problems are caused. Avoiding certain triggers that will shut off your partners ability to listen objectively can go a long way to actually getting your point across. Sometimes you need a small sharp chisel instead of a sledge hammer, likewise the revrse can be true. There is also an art to being able to adequately articulate exactly what you mean.
Of course, if your way is working for you, then there is no need to "fix it".
There is also an "art" to choosing partners that are compatible with one's personality and communication style. I've done that, so I don't have the problems you describe above.