Never mind if it works for others. Will it work for YOU.
I could write a whole page and I'm sure other people will try to convince you to deal with your jealousy, get to the root of it, develop compersion, etc.
Don't do anything you don't want to do. Two years is about how long it takes to REALLY get to know someone. It sounds like you and this man are incompatible as life partners. You can love someone, and be "in love" with them, and still not make good [partners for each other.
I would tell you to leave and seek happiness with someone who shares your vision of what you want out of life instead of trying to force a square peg into a round hole and have things get very ugly in the process.