Thread: Jealous
View Single Post
Old 09-19-2011, 11:05 PM
nycindie's Avatar
nycindie nycindie is offline
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: The Big Apple
Posts: 10,083

Originally Posted by Allstar View Post
Jealousy sucks and is hard to deal with. I have a hard time with it . . . I remind myself that she is mine . . .
Consider that perhaps this idea of her being yours, of belonging to you, is exactly the thing that stirs up the jealousy, even though you are finding it some sort of comfort to think of your relationship this way. Usually when I see people here struggling with jealousy, it has to do with a sense of ownership or possessiveness over someone. The more you can try to turn that way of thinking around into something more like, "I want the person I love to be happy and free," I think the less jealousy you will feel and an easier time you will have moving toward compersion.
The world opens up... when you do.

"Oh, oh, can't you see? Love is the drug for me." ~Bryan Ferry
"Love and the self are one . . ." ~Leo Buscaglia

Click here for a Solo Poly view on hierarchical relationships
Click here to find out why the Polyamorous Misanthrope is feeling disgusted.
Reply With Quote