Originally Posted by Allstar
Jealousy sucks and is hard to deal with. I have a hard time with it . . . I remind myself that she is mine . . .
Consider that perhaps this idea of her being yours
, of belonging to you
, is exactly the thing that stirs up the jealousy, even though you are finding it some sort of comfort to think of your relationship this way. Usually when I see people here struggling with jealousy, it has to do with a sense of ownership or possessiveness over someone. The more you can try to turn that way of thinking around into something more like, "I want the person I love to be happy and free," I think the less jealousy you will feel and an easier time you will have moving toward compersion