RP, I believe the comments to the OP regarding the use of the word "lifestyle" were directed toward this:
Originally Posted by seysccouple
. . . we are new to the poly lifestyle . . . We have been thinking about building a dating / social networking site dedicated to the polyamorous lifestyle.
As has been discussed at length in the thread titled 'What is this "lifestyle" you mention?
,' which I think makes for a good read, we were simply pointing out that there is no one specific poly lifestyle to adhere to. Swingers use the term "the Lifestyle" to describe a set of practices generally understood by other swingers. But poly is more fluid and "customizable" than that, so I think those of us who responded about that just wanted the OP to understand this point. Thinking there is a set kind of "poly lifestyle" could be a disaster, especially if they are thinking of developing a website in which they would likely sink some cash.