You're right, a newer relationship doesn't have to be lower class or less loving, nor does it even need to be less strong. But with some partners we entwine our lives, share finances, share a home, move across the country if need be, have children, and make lifelong commitments. With others, even with full love and respect and consideration for the other person, we just don't choose to become life partners in that way. This thread is about discussing how we talk about those distinctions if we find we want or need to talk about them, in the most clear and loving way possible.
If you're someone who feels all your relationships need to be equal, that every relationship needs to start with the intention of ecoming a life partnership, that's fine, and this conversation needn't affect you in any way.
The major players. Me, 30ish bi female. Gia, girlfriend of 4+ years. Clay, boyfriend/dom. Davis, ex/friend/"it's complicated." Eddie, roommate & fwb.
The supporting cast. Eric, Gia's husband. Bee, Gia and Eric's toddler. Dexter, Gia's lover. Helen, Eric's lover. Izzy and Nikki, Clay's partners. Liam, Eddie's husband.