Originally Posted by redpepper
Actually, I think I get on better with the mono community right now than the poly one as I don't have to concern myself with them looking at me as a catch, or disappointment in my point of view about sex in my life.
I'm scratching my head over this. Um...wtf? Disappointment in your pov about sex in your life? Why would anybody be disappointed with that, poly or mono? I've not encountered any of that sort of thing among the polyfolk I know here, so I wonder what it is that has you fretting about that where you are.
Is it common among the polyfolk in your area to expect some specific approach to sex? That strikes me as odd.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.